Funerary Broccoli
Published September 9, 2010
By Frank McMains
I have seen them come and go through the years like a Pyrex parade. Always the same clear glass pan, always cooling on the counter, then topped with foil and delivered by my mother to a house where death or illness has been a recent visitor. They are the traditional token of Southern concern, the casserole.
The contents frequently varied but one permutation on the condolence casserole became so ubiquitous that a cousin dubbed it Funerary Broccoli. When word of some tragedy reached our home my mother started cooking, and a week or two after the dish was delivered the empty container would return, anonymous among the house wares except for an oven crinkled piece of masking tape on its bottom that bore out last name. These are the little stitches that make up the fabric of friendship, and though they are themselves a symbol of tragedy I have to admit that more than once I looked forward to the feast that would follow the passing of distant relative.
It was no surprise then that after a recent surgery on my mother’s knee that our refrigerator rapidly filled with sympathy casseroles. Seafood stuffed eggplant, roasted vegetable soup, lime chicken, spinach madeline, now mostly presented in disposable plastic, but food for the sickly nonetheless.
My mother, hobbled by surgery, took her meals on the couch. My father or I would load down a tray with recently delivered food and deposit it in front of her. The process began to feel like feeding animals at the zoo, if the animals read New York Times bestseller fiction and watched Ellen. Humans seem to delight in role reversal and my dad and I are no exception. Of course, we wanted to repay my mom for some small portion of the meals she had lovingly prepared for us over the years, but I think the novelty of the process (and the lipid heavy casseroles) was what we really enjoyed.
At this point you may be wondering about the point of this blog post. Food as love is a rather over worked metaphor but there is no denying that cooking is an act of affection. High in the ranking of food as currency for caring is the casserole and, in the word of Anthony Curtis, a boy’s best friend is his mother. These points should all be relatively plain. But what struck me in thinking back over all these years of culinary exchanges is the vessel itself, the clear Pyrex dish. It is appropriate for celebrations and for mourning. Few other items work so well in such contrasting scenarios.
A person would not wear a black suit to an Easter Egg Hunt or pastels to a funeral but the casserole works well at any occasion. Perhaps plain glass is universally appropriate because of its anonymity, but it may be something more. A visitor bearing a warm pan of eggplant parmesan is always a welcomed sight because the food contained therein is tangible evidence that you are cared for. Be it Christmas or a funeral, au gratin potatoes or pork chops with rice, the casserole is proof that some apron clad person out there is looking out for you at 350 degrees for 25 minutes or until bubbling around the edges.

















